Yes, I went to the Boston March, 1.21.2017. I wore my Pussy Power hat that was knit by my Sukie Sister with so much love.  I didn’t jive with that hat. I wanted my black beret. But when love comes to you with purity of heart, you must never turn it away.  I wore it for Lauren as a sign of our sisterhood and for no other reason.


The march was glorious in many ways, and there were other sides to reflect upon as well. I didn’t "March for America”; I didn’t march against T----p. I marched against the ongoing economic swindling of our country. I marched against all that has come before, including public apathy, that has permitted this product, not President to be marketed and sold to the most vulnerable of society made desperate by an intentional economic collapse. This collapse is the gateway to oligarchy designed by elitist thugs who have ransacked the coffers, controlled the military and turned prisons into the new slave mills. This machine will churn on its own bilious greed until only the blood and death of the poor remain.


Let’s not get too smug or comfortable...long days are coming...make sure you’re not alone...the marches around the world were glorious, but there is more, so much more to get done...whose in your world?  Do you speak for others, assuming they are voiceless instead of letting them speak for themselves?


The conspiracy of tyranny
did not just begin
it’s been warming up for centuries
don’t put all sights on him
the orange man of ill repute
petulant child in a big boy’s suit
though evil rots his heart and brain
he’s just one passenger on hatred’s train
a cabal of wealth filthier gets
devoid of conscience or regret
grabs our country by the shock and awe
as they sharpen fang and claw
to distract, conceal, pillage then rape
gang bang us into a corporate state
as we grapple with the grabbing of the pussy
Black men get slaughtered for selling loosies
First Nation Peoples are killed with impunity
we’d better redefine the meaning of our unity
who gets to speak?
who calls the shots?
who gets the podium?
whose on the bus?
who do you have
at the center of your life?
do you embrace diversity
when your daughter has a wife?
the conspiracy of tyranny
thrives when we get cozy
nice-nice is good
till you can’t afford your groceries
where will you stand
when troubles come
is your love for all humanity
or in reserve for special ones?
who walks through
the center of your world
who gets your platitudes
who gets your pearls
who sits at the table
who gets the crumbs
who do you embrace
when the troubles come?

Kumbaya won’t cut it
when the tanks roll in
The conspiracy of tyranny 
didn’t just begin
we celebrate Mandela
as Biko fades away
nice-nice and safe
won’t send tyranny to its grave
nice-nice didn’t kill Jim Crow
it didn’t free the slaves
Read Letter from Birmingham Jail
if you think baking cookies is brave
if you want it safe get out of my way
things might get a little rough
something’s got to give
when that peace sign’s is not enough
the conspiracy of tyranny
didn’t just begin
every time we play it safe
a little more seeps in
Constitutional rights slashed with impunity
we’d better redefine the meaning of our unity
who gets to speak?
who calls the shots?
who gets the podium?
whose on the bus?
look around
then look again
whose on the bus?
Never assume
ask “what is it that you want,
what is it that you need?"
Who gets to the front of the line?
Who gets to speak?

Magdalena Gomez
20 hrs · I wish to thank all of the invisible ones in the White House who make those in power comfortable and support their lives: The housekeepers; custodians; chefs; prep cooks; administrative assistants; furniture movers; the ones who make the mid-night snacks; the lighters of candles; the setters of tables; the buyers of supplies; the launderers; the unofficial, personal secret keepers; the drivers; the delivery people; the postal workers; the lifters; the pullers; the draggers; the ones who notice when pens run dry; the personal care attendants; the nannies; the tutors; the gardeners; the landscapers; the greeters, the tour guides; the Pages; the interns; the ones who make sure the toilets are clean and the paper is on the roll. Especially to all who toiled as slaves to build the House that is about to be desecrated. It will withstand the onslaught of disgrace by the grace and humility of all who walked those halls and rooms because they truly believed in the heart and soul of our Constitution at its intended core, our Bill of Rights, and the intrinsic meanings of what it means to be President and to be on the team that makes it all work. You worked for us with all of our flaws. Thank you, you who are nameless and faceless to the bigger world beyond those walls. Your grace, dignity and humble fulfillment of jobs well done will live on. You are the ones who will bring dignity to the office regardless of what depravities are to come. The walls will stand, and so will The People.
"Every morning I wake up in a house that was built by slaves."
-First Lady Michelle Obama at the 2016 Democratic Convention

Make the lie big, make it simple, keep saying it, and eventually they will believe it. 
-Adolf Hitler

It is likely that everything I will write in this brief commentary has already been said.  I share it only for the purpose of solidarity with those who have felt it and said it before.  You’re not alone.

How is it that we can “Make America Great Again”? What unravels before us daily is the loss of any gains we had made in civility, as empathy and good manners take drive-through short cuts for the least inconvenience of time wasted on human connection and interaction. We have shopping to do, or three jobs to get the rent paid, or a Netflix binge awaiting next to the bowl of chips.  The demise of human interaction, aliteracy, and jargon that interrupt intimate conversations, converge to collude with our creation of Donald Trump and his rabid determination to Make America Hate Again.

Great Again? This implies that it was indeed once great. I do not equate having the “strongest” military on earth with greatness. A military-industrial complex that thrives on the altruism and/or economic despair of its frontline armed forces,(many from economically oppressed communities who see no other way out of poverty) that sends home soldiers with heroic hearts and damaged minds to empty refrigerators and sub-rate medical care, to be forgotten and discarded, is not great. A nation that believes “discovery” is equal to pillaging and taking by force what has previously existed and thrived in the care of others, is a nation in need of a new vocabulary, with an emphasis on historical etymology. 

A nation that savagely attempted to decimate 500 First Nations and forced their children into “Christian” schools with brutal practices of assimilation and cultural rape, was not a great nation. A nation that views First Nations Peoples as past tense, is not great. A nation that rounded up American citizens that were of Japanese descent and corralled them into concentration camps, was not great; a nation with the highest incarceration rate in the world that distinguishes itself with corporately owned prison labor camps and has one of the worst educational systems that help to feed those prisons, was and is, not great. 

The romanticized 1950’s when women were equated with steerage and servitude.  Not great. A time when we needed a national campaign geared towards children (“Give a Hoot; Don’t Pollute") so they would stop the adults from trashing the rural, suburban and urban landscapes, with garbage that was even thrown from car windows with impunity.  Yes, there was a time in the United States when throwing bags of garbage onto public properties, parks and landscapes was normalized. Nothing great about it.

Yes, we bought and sold human beings; the Black body was once monetary currency. It is now currency for a New Hate, that isn’t new at all; it is simply getting consent to rise again, out in the open, guns blazing.

The violence of sex trafficking of women and children is escalating. You can even find it in Palo Alto, minutes from Stanford University.

The Tuskegee Syphillis Experiments from 1932-1972. Not great.
The decades of forced sterilization of one-third of Puerto Rican women on their colonized island. Not great.
The even more recent forced sterilizations of incarcerated  and poor women in the U.S. Not great.

The list goes on. Monstrous.

We do not adequately protect the rights of children, their safety, their education, nor their food. The U.S. is the only country that hasn’t ratified the Convention on Children's Rights. Great? Homelessness a block away from affluence does not say Great to me either.

When I see the Democratic Party signage that states Love Trumps Hate, I cringe and wonder how many people realize that the words subliminally connect Trump to Love, not Hate. This slogan, and all who accept it without question or concern, serves to underscore our predilection for sound bites, soothing to the collective mental fog of a country in a state of PTSD, where war criminals who defied the will of the people still walk free.

Perhaps if we call things what they are, with words and facts and non-revisionist history, with clear minds, distancing ourselves for a moment from the influences that contaminate our thinking rather than inform it, perhaps if we can move beyond the sound bite, we can take a bite of truth out of the sound. The evidence is in, over and over again: Trump is Hate. 

Now, here’s the hard part, how have we become a nation that has allowed him to rise to such a level of power that he may become the next President of the United States? What have we become and why? 

In the meantime, remember to vote. Netflix can wait.

Little Oscar
named by chance
by circumstance
a bit of a joke
no roots or history
to your naming
it’s no wonder
you seldom understand
the significance of histories
untold, retold, revised, erased, defiled, ill-placed
monogamous solely to your own sullen face
so still, Little Oscar
so closed from the world
hands folded, as if ready for death
perched on the reel
that seldom turns
in the direction of justice
what do you know
of humankind
beyond what you’ve been told
by others like you
so still
so perfect
so robbed of life
all affect rehearsed
cajoled from the hole
where soul might have been
had your name
mattered more.
Poor little Oscar,
so perfect
so still
balanced on a sword
you fight for nothing more
than staying in one place.


-Magdalena Gómez
January 22, 2016

After a recent conversation with yet another veteran who has shared horror stories with me about their stateside V.A. hospital medical care, I've decided to share my 2015 blog again.  Here it is:
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Imagine this, USA:  One town or city in every state  makes an intentional decision to have one year without July 4th fireworks. The money is  instead designated to cover services for veterans, and their families, who also serve:  health, education, food and housing.  The baby in the crib whose mommy or daddy emerges from the trenches with PTSD may end up serving for a lifetime.  We can't stop wars that make the rich filthy and our landscapes filthier. We CAN stop the fireworks. 

We can educate for educated choices. 

Despair should not be the motivation to serve. Manufactured scarcity builds armies.  Lies and profiteering build wars.

Instead of a night of ephemeral toxic  light shows we choose to support:

The young person who believed it was the only way out of poverty. The only way to gain respect, the only way to get an education. The same ones who instead returned to an empty refrigerator, a foreclosure notice, the vestiges of brain damage and dependence on a wheelchair. The ones bamboozled by the perfect teeth of seductive recruitment in the corridors of failing schools and crumbling neighborhoods. 

We choose to believe in those who did it because they believe(d), even if we do not. We honor the goodness of their hearts, the purity and innocence of their intentions.  The heroic heart that truly believes peace and democracy are possible and is willing to die for it.

We choose to support those whose lives and minds are shredded by the revelations and truths of war.

We choose to support the spouse that is wounded when love becomes the fist of trauma and no longer recognizes itself.

We choose to look at ourselves with honest eyes:

We "selfie" ourselves into the void. Pretend. Smile. Deny. Despair.
Die Slowly.  Die Stupidly. Live in FEAR! The Musical!

One homeless veteran is one too many and shames us all.
We can be patriots. Even if we don't believe.
No flag required. No shots fired.

The statistics below by themselves would be enough reason to end fireworks. Can't stop war. There is too much insatiable lust for profit at stake. The fear of death creates more death as cowards send the brave to the front lines so they might immortalize themselves with all that money can buy.  Passing down blood money through generations in fear of death.  Can't stop that lust. Can't end that cowardice.

Start small; stop fireworks.  

http://www.nfpa.org/safety-information/for-consumers/holidays/fireworks/reports-and-statistics-about-fireworks

Want to see the real numbers of government spending? 
https://www.nationalpriorities.org

“Like” is a bloodless word that begs for synonyms by its mediocrity. Like is the least committed word in the expression of holding someone in high regard.  It is often the timid precursor to “I love you” or a euphemism for feeling a sexual attraction.  That little turd of a word can multi-task as a preposition, noun, adjective, a conjunction, or a verb. It has become the most unworthy recipient of global attention and usage since landing on Facebook.

That feckless miniature of human response has gained iconic stature in the global marketplace and lexicon.  Its evil twin, the thumb-up emoticon (yes, it is one thumb, not two) now serves to punctuate “like” in the way that using a bold font might. Flames are added to this impostor of true emotion to mimic some version of fervor.  We now have the option to “like” with just a little more oomph.  We must take caution to not strain ourselves.

When a barrage of “likes” appear without comment in response to a bereavement Facebook Status Update such as “My mother died today” it is beyond my comprehension.  It appears that many allow the word “like” to convey a multitude of sentiments without having to make any emotional commitment or investment of time whatsoever. Perhaps when “like” appears to be an egregiously inappropriate response it is actually paired with some sort of extra-sensory companion that underscores its true intention:  “I’m not really an insensitive buffoon, you know that my ‘like’ simply means I am here for you.  I’m sorry for your loss; you have my deepest condolences.”  Do we allow “like” to speak for us because our ability to communicate with each other is diminishing as our screen time increases exponentially?  

Choice.  Intention.  I choose to have face to face conversations with others and make sure we actually look into each other’s eyes.  When I go to a restaurant and the “server”  introduces themselves, I introduce myself too.  I ask him/her about their day.  A brief conversation that lets them know I see them and value their service.  We are having a human interaction for mutual benefit.  

We can learn a great deal about people on Facebook by their comments, what they choose to post (or not post; words or images).  With the ready access to “like” do we take the easy way out with conversations that might require us to be vulnerable or fully present when someone needs us or is clearly asking for a specific response?  Are we simply too busy to live?  “Like” has too much power on Facebook; often replacing the vocabulary of human engagement in the form of dialogue. The same could be said of texting, OMG, IDK, WTF?  These abbreviations are making it into school papers - yes even college - ask professors you know - and life, education, discourse and relationships are on the fast track to the lowest common denominator of living, learning and loving.

Addicted to social media as your primary mode of human engagement? An inbox message or chat is a good place to start a more intimate conversation.  E-mail, call, pick up the phone, Skype, send a card, write a letter (remember those?) or best of all, meet in person whenever possible.  Go slow. Recovering the sense of wonder, passion and joy that comes with intimacy in our human connections could make you feel you’ve entered another dimension.  To be genuinely connected to family, friends, colleagues, strangers and the world you inhabit (and inhabits you) is not always safe or pleasant. And in this warp-speed culture, it is certainly not always convenient. 

We need to guard our time like the ephemeral treasure it is. What we lose cannot return, ever.  Let’s be choosy and selective.  Not everyone deserves our presence or even our absence.  Be clear and intentional in communicating; ditch the passive aggressive quotes you might post on social media to relay an indirect message and pick up the phone or make an appointment instead.  Which one makes you feel healthier - passive/aggressive or intentional/compassionately clear and direct?

I’m not sure which one repels me the most, an inappropriate like, or its use as the indolent response to a specific open question; or perhaps a comment when the request for “no comments please” is crystal clear.  Oh, and what about that cowardly, commitment phobic thief of time and energy on event postings, Maybe, or that thoughtless Going accompanied by an enthusiastic and public comment of assurance of “wouldn’t miss it!”; the no-show sans any kind of alibi or apology, sincere or otherwise.  We end up watching the door to make sure those Going cheerleaders feel welcomed and embraced at the event.  Their absence stings and our faith in humanity erodes just a little more, however imperceptibly   Why is it that people think so little of themselves as to believe that their presence or absence is of no consequence?  Going means yes. And yes is a commitment.

I am the first to admit that I have inadvertently missed appointments, slept through alarms from utter exhaustion, left things undone, missed e-mail messages that get lost in the daily avalanche and cannot always return every single phone call that arrives.  I am certain have been the cause of disappointment to others and to none more than to myself.  It happens; we’re human and fallible.  For those of us who don’t have personal assistants, housekeepers and personal trainers, keeping up with appointments, calls, events, bills, correspondence, work-outs, special dates and celebrations, laundry, cooking, cleaning, and all that daily life requires, can be a full-time job even before we do the one that brings in the money.  Taking responsibility, holding ourselves accountable, is how we separate ourselves from gelatinous sea life that sting with disregard or self-knowledge.  If we wish to be discernible from the sponge, when we are in error, we look for the way to make it right.  One of the ways we can be more responsible is to be aware of what and how we post on social media. When we receive an invitation to an event, be honest and clear in our response. Show up or shut up.

My social media weakness?  Animated emoticons/stickers when chatting with one very close friend.  The sillier, the better.  We binge on them for a few moments and then get to the real conversation.  We try to out-do each other with how much we can say in images.  A sticker here and there is fun, and allows my inner kid to be momentarily liberated from adult responsibilities - but NEVER while driving.  I won’t even talk to myself when I’m behind the wheel.  I save it up for whoever I’m on my way to meet, grateful that I have communication options other than social media.

There are people for whom social media is their most viable outlet, due to illness (been there), physical isolation, or difficulty with face to face engagement.  There are more than two sides to every story, especially one as complex as human interactions in an increasingly high-speed, fast food, toxic, emotionally dangerous world where the greatest threats to our survival are the terrorism of manufactured wars for profit;  genetically modified and processed foods; privatization of water; the school to prison pipeline; the willful endangerment of bees (which makes genetically modified food a corporately profitable necessity which can masquerade as the province of the scientifically heroic) and the relentless gang rape of the earth so that few may flourish as millions perish.  

We cannot attend to it all, but we can be aware of ourselves and our daily human interactions.  The more we isolate ourselves behind screens, the less conversant we become, the less we read and learn, the less we unite with a diversity of people, the easier we are to control and to bamboozle. If we are surrounded by normalized mediocrity, we become less discerning and easier to impress.  Tyrants welcome the lazy and indifferent.  Are you a “like” a “maybe” or a “going”?  Will your legacy be a perfunctory comment, a wall of quotes from others, or do you plan to make a statement of your own?  

What is the true meaning of all the “likes” in our lives?  What is it that we’re not saying?  Even as we use Facebook and other social media to “stay in touch” are we falling more out of touch?  

Is like enough of a life for you?